Initial chemistry is the spark that fuels a relationship, but that spark doesn’t always ignite for all the right reasons. How is it that qualities that led us to a person in the first place, can later repel us so strongly and lead to problems down the line?
How does that cool confidence that once made us swoon turn into the soul crushing aloofness that distances us from a loved one?
Here I want to address some of these questions and propose a way out of the patterns that lead us to choose the wrong partners so that we can establish relationships with the right ones.
What qualities should we steer away from when we don’t even know a person yet?It’s great for a moment, but then the reality of what’s on the inside becomes apparent.The key to breaking out of ruts is to start challenging yourself by going for the girls who are hard to get or who you have given up trying for. She’s obviously not the type that likes you or that you really need. Break away from the whole picture you have trapped yourself in, from the type of girls, to the expectations, to the places you go and the activities you share. I am a 43-year-old bachelor, and I always seem to attract the wrong type of woman.At Royal Ascot this year there was an attractive lady queueing with me.