But as you’ve probably already discovered, it’s also important to be smart about whom you offer yourself to and about how to pace yourself so that your attachment to others develops over time.Often, a person becomes too attached too quickly because he or she has ignored important truths about relationships.If so, be grateful that you have a heart that knows how to love and a soul that’s willing to open itself up to other people.That’s a gift that not everyone has, and this ability to connect deeply with someone will help you experience life and love in all its intensity.With each myth below, we’ve offered a corresponding truth regarding your love and relationships that’s important to keep in mind.Myth #1: The ideal person exists, and I think I may be having dinner with the person right now.
If we follow a particular script and do everything right we will be happy and finally feel complete. This makes us incapable of expressing vulnerability because winning comes first, and without that vulnerability we actually end up incapable of deeper connections and never getting to that happy/complete feeling.
It’s a problem that will require all of our courage, confidence and creativity to solve.
It’s a problem that affects many of our brothers in Christ—it might even be affecting you.
You can just be thinking, I’d like to get to know this girl better, I should ask her on a date. We consider relationships for weeks or even months before making a move.
If we start dating, we feel like the relationship has to be heading directly toward marriage.