Madame Figaro reminds French women in the States to not send the first SMS after an encounter, so as not to seem “desperate”.The man, also pretending to be busy and not desperate, will generally follow a “three-day rule” in waiting to text the woman for a second date.So I took a second to look back and consider my own experience. The second time we had even more fun and ended up making out. There was no first date, there was no going to a restaurant, there were just two people hanging out and attracted to each other.I met this American guy in Paris, last year, random situation, friend of friend. I am not saying this kind of casual encounter is representative of the whole population, but talking with friends from here made it seem something common.Perhaps a similar mentality also exists in France, between local men and women.I don’t know, because I was not a local, but a rare and exotic foreigner.They’re more likely to bop around awkwardly, making creepy and intermittent eye contact from the corner of a bar.
It wasn’t Bridget Jones syndrome, where my social ineptitude or hand-eye coordination mishaps could be blamed. The main factor that increased my feminine mystique while in France was a certain : I was American.“The American game of seduction is like military strategy, and it makes mincemeat of any innocent, lighthearted European daring to set foot in the land of pragmatic romance.” Dating, French language sources say, is every bit as bad as American TV series have led the French public to believe.. May the advice prove useful to those attempting to date à la américaine, and for Americans — who really ought to discover how other cultures see their romance manqué.The word déïte — as the French phonetically spell it — doesn’t have an exact translation. “I would try to tell [American] guys, ‘I’m French; I don’t date,'” says a French expat in California, interviewed by Madame Figaro, “but it didn’t work.They needed everything to be explicit” — in terms of whether or not an outing was officially a date.Americans are thus obliged to officially ask each other out, and the first date is often for a drink and to make small talk.