I could go on, and if you’re a part of almost any kind of Christian community, you probably can too.Even though we’re following Jesus, and reading the same Bible, and aiming for the covenant of marriage, our dating advice can be surprisingly wide and diverse.
But through the endless messaging, countless phone conversations, text messages and date after date after date, I’ve learned a few lessons. Remember, you are getting to know a stranger, so don’t say to yourself, I’m OK if all we do is email for four months. Guys are not clear sometimes when they are not interested, so you have to read their actions and not their words. If they don’t reach out, if they don’t call it a “date,” if they don’t call you, just let it go. I can “put myself out there” in a classy way and be faithful to the desire that God’s given me. Online dating is like walking in a minefield, and we are only a few wrong decisions away from destruction. This includes meaningful relationships, Cross Fit, long-distance running, good books and maybe the occasional piece of dark chocolate.
Rebekah gives the servant’s camels a drink, he gives her a couple heavy bracelets, her family approves, she meets Isaac at a tent — and they’re married.
If you’ve wanted to be married and aren’t, you might read Genesis 24 (as strange as it may seem today) with at least a little bit of curiosity and even longing — it just seems so simple and clean.
I thought I was an emotionally stable human being before this — that theory has since been challenged. Praying for wisdom and grace for us all as we walk this out.
This year has been my initiation into all things online dating, and let’s just say that the tears factor has been exponential.