Using our heads and not just our hearts, we broke up because we felt it was God’s will.
That night I went and hid in a dark, empty classroom and cried for three hours.
Most of my Christian buddies had girlfriends, and certainly all my fraternity brothers did. I carried this heavy load of rationalization around with me through the fall semester.
She and I finally got enough courage to bring up the subject, talk and make a decision.
Having fully obeyed, I was now willing to do God wanted me to.
This gave me the courage to make another important decision that night.
You wish it could happen soon but it completely freaks you out. Some people call this dating, other people call it courting — there are likely countless terms you could use for the process.
But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage).
I will lay out what I view to be applicable biblical principles and passages on this topic, and then I and the editors will leave it to you to follow up with blog posts, comments and discussion.In addition to what all of you saw on the blog, I have received dozens of questions and comments in e-mails, which I and the folks at Boundless have culled through to see what the most pressing questions seem to be.Judging from both frequency and "passion," the most pressing questions arising from the last piece involve physical involvement — which I'm about to cover, initiation of relationships (especially the bit about involving the woman's father), and the practical details of how one of these relationships works.This can be hard, but it also sets the stage for greater intimacy in the long run.In the long run, spicing up your relationship serves as a reminder that it takes work to keep that spark lit.