Most of us have only seen speed dating in movies and TV, where it’s portrayed as possibly the most godawful experience on the planet. It’s easy to make a joke out of a quick interaction with a weird character we never have to see again. An equal number of men and women (usually 10 – 12) sit down at a table, armed with a name tag and a piece of paper.
You meet someone, you talk for 5 minutes, and afterward you circle “yes” if you liked them or “no” if you didn’t.
The thought of meeting 25 strange men for the very first time face to face (rather than through carefully chosen profile photos) was nerve-wracking, to say the least. LORA: Date #2, a cute guy, begins by introducing himself as an engineer. I congratulate him and his face drops as he explains that he meant he’s going to be unemployed. I try to match his enthusiasm by asking him three questions (name, age, occupation) in a row. (My suspicion is confirmed when I see him picking up a random woman at the bar later — during the break.) p.m. LORA: The first cool guy of the evening, #15, a record producer, takes a seat across from me in a button-down and jeans, a welcome change from the parade of suits. CHARLENE: A drunken #41 joins my table and, before I can say hello, immediately shares his name, age and job — along with his hobbies, likes and dislikes.
Charlene and I are both in our 20s and have been friends since our first year of university, when Charlene was a certified prude and I was a wild child. CHARLENE: Date #27, a reporter for an Iranian newspaper, impresses me with his ability to keep a conversation going — no awkward silences. We hit it off immediately, discussing our shared interest in Canadian music and our mutual industry contacts. I’d tell you what he said, but it was hard to understand through the slurring.
Many people find themselves in the situation where lots of their friends are already hooked up, their workplace isn’t an ideal dating environment, and they aren’t interested in drunken fumblings in clubs.
Speed dating offers the perfect relaxed and pressure free solution for how to meet new people who are on the same page.
And lastly, if no chemistry is there 5 minutes goes by rather quickly!
You know what it is like when you are sitting at a bar!
So you’re not brushing someone off for some interest they have that probably wouldn’t even effect your relationship with them, you’re getting a slight glimpse at whether or not you might actually enjoy their company. You get to make snap judgements on people (we’re humans, we all love to judge and you know it), and you also get to meet a ton of interesting people you never would otherwise. Contrary to what you might believe, you cannot tell that from five minutes.
’ It can never work.” Speed dating gives you the chance to meet people who are also looking for a date, but instead of learning everything about them up front, you have a conversation with them and see if you get along. Spend the time enjoying talking to new and interesting people, rather than wondering whether or not each person you meet is your soul mate.
And the whole time you are wondering if she is even single? It is him just 10 years after that picture was taken and now you are stuck sitting through dinner with this guy when you know the attraction is not there. I can assure you that all participants are single and interested in finding a relationship.
Or let’s switch to the blind or the almost blind date when you only viewed a picture of your date. You don’t need to think of a pick up line or a way to get their attention because I promise you will get 5 minutes of one on one time chat with this person and make your perfect first impression.