It takes a bit of personal work to maintain an awareness when our hormones are surging around like crazy because nature made us a little crazy when it comes to love – or more precisely the mating game.
Despite being very sophisticated and civilized, we humans are animals after all and that being said, there are a few things about animal instinct and the innate urge to mate that we seem to overlook when we meet someone special and start down that path of falling in love … The reason we overlook it is even built in and natural!
Are you becoming acquainted with the person relatively quickly? But, shouldn’t we be looking for these factors regardless?
Are you going to wind up getting hurt and broken hearted anyway? How do you follow your “heart” (hormones really) and still be smart?
At some point, the lines had become distorted and I wasn’t sure if I was getting to know a woman because I genuinely liked her and wanted to get to know her or because I wanted to find myself encapsulated within her nether region.
The general consensus seems to be that one should see how things are going with that person before they decide when – or whether – they should become sexually involved. If the goal is to truly find a soulmate, then what’s the rush? As I reflect on my past dating experiences, I can say with relative certainty that I wasn’t always looking for these factors in the utmost earnestness.
Nature did this instinctively so that we would mate and reproduce without thinking about all the pitfalls and issues that could arise, because if we think about it too much, we might miss the chance to make babies …WHOA! You’re just dating, getting to know someone, maybe falling in love, right? And that’s the more civilized brain surfacing to try and make sense out of the lovely feelings of attraction and desire those hormones are throwing around.
When we meet someone that strikes our fancy and turns us on there is an actual chemical surge that happens, first in brain, and the rest of us follows.