It's gotten easier and easier, with age, to attract women — and there's a lot more variety out there in the wide world than there was on their college campus.
Many of them are working for the first time, so they're enjoying having a salary and living it up. Many of them don't see any compelling reason to "settle down" (and most of the ones who into the idea of settling down have already done so).
It requires great maturity and equanimity to consistently set limits but not excessive ones, remain calm, and collaboratively solve problems with your child.
A 30-something is more likely to have that maturity than is a 20-something. As mentioned, older people have had more time to advance in their career.
Evolutionary psychologists say that relationships like this often occur because while fertility lasts only from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for lots of men.
), but the benefits can certainly outweigh those little things.
I met Bob at a restaurant on a summer afternoon in 2014.
Even if you do get into a serious relationship with a younger dude, the whole babies thing is likely to be a conundrum. Even if you do get into a serious relationship with a younger dude, his lack of life experience — and dating experience — could make things complicated. Older guys are more likely to know how to deal with things like temptations, rough patches, and periodic sexual problems.
NOTE: For those who might wonder why this article focuses only on straight men and women, it is because many of the issues in marrying an older person relate to pregnancy or health and there are significant gender differences in age-related health and sexuality. Mainly it's a visceral, physical thing although some men may value a younger woman because she is more likely to look up to him if only because he may have advanced more in his career.