Which brings us to a notion that I articulated in which has a funny way of always resurfacing on this blog: “Men look for sex and find love.” This doesn’t mean he’s a player or a liar or a loser. The way he figures out if he really wants to be in a relationship with you is based on the quality time you spend talking over that first month or two.This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be a good husband and father one day. This is completely separate from his desire to sleep with you.When she indicated the weekend was not looking good, I suggested the following week, and she seemed hesitant, and said she was pretty booked.Now, I understand how someone can easily book 7 dates for each night of the week, and I’m not implying that she did that.After my comment, she checked her schedule again and she realized she was free on Tuesday, so we agreed on getting dinner that night.However, I’m wondering what your thoughts are with respect to waiting too long for that second date…If she were to make me wait, let’s say a week and a half, when there was no discernible excuse like going out of town, studying for a test, etc.
It’s important to remember, however, that nobody escapes matters of the heart completely unscathed.
It really depends on the people involved, and the reasons why they get married when they do. Most people realize that you shouldn’t get married too quickly after meeting someone, and the one long-term study I’ve found on the subject seems to back that up.
There are a couple of reasons why a short dating period can cause problems in marriage: Marriage is really about commitment, so the real question is whether you are willing to commit to this person for the rest of your life, and whether you can trust them when they say they’re willing to do the same. Now, sometimes you can trust them more quickly if other trustworthy people have known the person through close community for a long time, and can vouch for them.
In fact, they tended to divorce quicker than those with short courtships.
Again, there are a couple of reasons why taking too long is a bad sign: It’s not so much that people wait too long to get married, but that they stay in a relationship that never was built to last.